That’s the worst advice I’ve ever heard…

“If it don’t come easy, you better let it go.”


(Also, this video of Tanya Tucker is pretty much what my sister Carmen looked like basically the entirety of my youth, if you were ever wondering. No, seriously. Also, this is the epitome of 1988, whether you’re a country music fan or not. Madonna looked JUST LIKE THAT!)

I can’t believe my childhood was filled with this kind of BS preaching.  I somehow escaped its evil rhetoric and have actually come to live by quite the contrary mantra: “If it don’t come easy…try as hard as you can and sacrifice whatever you have to make it happen!”

Neither may be the soundest of advisories…but all I know is that all the good things in my life didn’t come easy.  If I had listened to Tanya, I wouldn’t have graduated college, or entrenched myself in Indianapolis’ arts & culture scene, or lost 30 pounds last year, or even have met and married the wonderful Mr. Masbaum!  Those, and many many many other great things came as the result of lots of effort, hard work, and some old-fashioned don’t-give-up-ery.  All this is really to say CONGRATULATIONS to my hubby for also not following Tanya’s advice, but instead digging in his heels and graduating college after 4 years of full course loads, classes filled with *kids* 10 years younger than him, and looooong nights of grueling group work and home work.

Congrats babe – I’m proud of ya!